This week’s quote comes from Thulani Davis, a writer who is perhaps not known to many, but this is something that I don’t feel should stand in the way of a great quote. Davis has written a number of screenplays, plays, novels and poems that some of you may have heard of.
The reason that I chose this particular quote is that although I find it amusing and slightly tongue in cheek, it is also very true. How many of us live with someone and have expected them to make allowances for us now that we call ourselves ‘writers’? For those who take writing seriously, much consideration must be given to our writing space, the times we write, the surroundings in which we practice our craft etc. To us, writing is all important, other things become secondary (such as housework, cooking, spending time with our significant other etc.).
How many times have we asked for peace and quiet, for our kids or other half to go take the dog for a walk so that we can get some writing done? I will admit to giving the evil eye to anyone who dares enter my writing room to interrupt me mid-flow. Do these mere mortals not understand that I am a writer with a potential best-seller on my hands?! 😆
Working on a huge writing project (such as a novel) takes time and dedication and likely makes us writers quite single-minded in our approach to getting the job done. Some of us are extremely fortunate to have the patience and understanding of those that we live with. Many non-writers may not understand the significance of writing and what it means to us and this can cause considerable strain on a relationship – something that I experienced myself last year and was a determining factor in calling time on a friendship/relationship.
Just as we sometimes have to bully ourselves to make the time to write, we also have to ask for the understanding of those poor folk that reside with us, asking them to also suffer for our art as we create our finest masterpiece. Make sure that your potential other half is aware that he or she is not only sharing a living space with you but your novel/book too!
If your significant other does not understand or appreciate that sometimes you need your own space to write then one wonders how much longevity their will be in such a relationship. Isn’t loving someone about understanding their motivations and desires, compromising and bringing out the best in each other? Shouldn’t this be the basis for any meaningful relationship?
Issue them an ultimatum: ‘Love me, love my writing.’ Otherwise, your relationship may end in tears/divorce/custody battle for cat/dog/child.
And nobody wants that.