I thought I’d change things up a bit this week and try something different. I’ve been thinking about zodiac signs and what they represent when it comes to a person’s personality and characteristics. Many people put a lot of stock into star signs and what they can tell us about a person and so I’ve selected a few quotes that I found about my own star sign to see whether or not I conformed to those characteristics.
Born in the middle of October, I am very much a Libran and people have often complimented me on my ability to see both sides of an argument (as long as I am not the one in the middle of it!) Perhaps that’s why the star sign for a Libran is a set of scales – we are the most balanced of all the star signs. Or are we?
I’ve truly lost my temper perhaps once or twice in the last ten years, and I have to admit that my display of anger has been a sight to behold. It tends to go unnoticed when I am upset or unhappy as I will often smile and internalise those negative feelings and turn them toward myself instead.
I’m not a confrontational person and would much rather walk away and be left to stew in my own juices than get into a stand-up argument with someone. I have always feared that getting angry will make me seem as if I have a bad attitude or that I am not a nice person. My self-confidence is such that I would rather be treated unfairly by someone and say nothing than stand my ground and risk losing their good opinion of me.
I have a pretty long fuse when it comes to my temper and it takes a lot to make me truly mad. However, when I unleash my fury it is not a pretty sight. The last time that I truly lost my temper I left a large hole in my bedroom wall when I threw something with all my might. When my patience has snapped, I will turn bright red and literally shake with rage. Anyone within a 500 yard range should run for cover….
Although it may be a failing of mine, when I love someone, I love them with everything that I have. I don’t expect you to be perfect, but I do expect you to treat me with dignity and respect. Librans are peacemakers and are therefore quite tolerant of the faults of others, but the one thing that I cannot stand is someone who hurts me continuously.
There is only so much ill-treatment I will condone before I decide to cut you out of my life. I would like to think that I am fair enough to give everyone a chance to prove their worth and I would even accept a person and their failings, knowing that they were working hard to change those negative aspects of their personality.
I can forgive past hurts, as long as there is a promise that such things will not happen again. But I cannot forgive someone who hurts me repeatedly and almost willingly. I have tried to make peace with some of the people of my past, but they continue to treat me badly and I will no longer tolerate that kind of behaviour from them.
Perhaps it is wrong of me to admit that this, more than any other characteristic, is the one that I like the most about myself. Librans are non-confrontational and therefore not outwardly rude to anyone. Yet Librans have a way of insulting people without the receiver even realising it.
A while back I had tolerated some pretty poor treatment from someone I thought I respected. For a time I sat back and said nothing, continuing to be polite and courteous each time I came into contact with them. But, as the previous section suggests, there was only so much I would tolerate before I bit back.
Rather than flying off the handle and hurling insults, I took my time to comp0se my thoughts and feelings, wording them in such a way that, even though the person knew that I was giving them a righteous dressing down, the manner in which I did it left them little recourse to pull me up on it. I didn’t scream or shout, I didn’t swear or throw things. All I did was convey my point in a manner that allowed little opportunity for the other person to hit back at me. And you know what? They never did speak rudely to me again after that….
Some folks have found this last point out to their cost recently. After years of being treated badly by someone important in my life, I finally pulled the plug on our relationship earlier this year and haven’t looked back since. I put up with a lot; I made concessions; I made compromises in order to maintain a relationship with someone who had so little respect for me that they continued to treat me like dirt.
I have only been brave enough this year to finally say that ‘enough is enough’. Without warning or explanation, I cut all contact with this person and have not spoken to them since. And how did they react?
Well, like a child in a tantrum if I’m being honest.
I haven’t seen or heard from this person since I severed contact and that’s fine by me. I’ve spent too long waiting for them to be something they’re not and I refuse to waste any more time on them or their stupid games. I just hope that the person in question knows that once I walk out, I never look back.